krisis separuh umur

baru-baru ini ada seorang kawan bagitau yang aku sedang mengalami krisis separuh umur.
macamana tu? aku tak percaya. ingatkan aku dah lepas kawasan bahaya bila dah masuk umur empat puluh empat ni tapi rupanya belum benar-benar bebas lagi.

apa itu krisis separuh umur atau middle life crisis?  ada sikit kat bawah ni.....

What Is A "Midlife Crisis?"



Over 90% of Americans can provide a definition of "midlife crisis." What do they mean?


Common beliefs about midlife crisis include:


•it can start at about forty years of age


•it is a common feature of middle age


•it affects men more than women


•it is stressful and traumatic


•people going through a midlife crisis feel many of these emotions:


◦turmoil,


◦despair,


◦helplessness,


◦distress,


◦dread,


◦disappointment,


◦fear,


◦entrapment in 'unwelcome, restrictive roles;'


◦boredom or discontent with previously fulfilling activities or parts of their lives.


•There is often an existential "my life has no meaning" or "is this all there is?" element


•It can be triggered by:


◦realization of aging / own mortality / physical decline;


◦job loss or stalled career,


◦unfulfilled dreams,


◦questioning your life path,


◦marriage trouble or divorce;


•possible outcomes include:


◦sudden changes in personal goals or lifestyle;


◦"life makeover" with marriage or career tossed out the window


Two quotes perfectly capture this common definition of midlife crisis:


"Life's cycle was seen as a set routine of getting married, having children, rising through the ranks at work, and moving to the suburbs. The crisis occurred when a man quit his job, let his hair grow long, bought a sports car, and headed toward California, often with a youthful companion." - Harvard Gazette

and


"Most younger adults anticipate that between their late thirties and their early fifties a day will come when they suddenly realize that they have squandered their lives and betrayed their dreams. They will collapse into a poorly defined state that used to be called a nervous breakdown. Escape from this black hole will mean either embracing an un-American philosophy of eschatological resignation or starting over - jaded stockbrokers off to help Mother Teresa, phlegmatic spouses off to the StairMaster and the singles scene. In short, they will have a midlife crisis." -- "Midlife Myths," by Winifred Gallagher in The Atlantic, May 1993


Other chapters of LifeTwo's "Twenty Questions About Midlife Crisis" show that many of these beliefs are wrong. For starters, midlife crisis is far less common than people think.


Other parts of "Twenty Questions About Midlife Crisis" will explain why we believe that the popular definition of midlife crisis mistakenly clumps together three or four different but related issues, ranging from depression to a reassessment of one's life.


The popular conception of "midlife crisis" outlined above masks these distinctions. And that's a problem for people wondering how to deal with a midlife crisis, because without properly identifying what's wrong, how can you fix it?




Submitted by Greg on August 11, 2006 - 1:05pm.